I’m dealing with a situation where my ex is threatening me with revenge porn. After realizing who he really was, I ended the relationship almost a year ago. He blackmailed me with explicit photos and videos he had taken without my knowledge, later attempting to use them against me. I warned him that if he ever shared or sent those images, I would report him and my lawyer would handle it. He apologized, of course, with the usual excuses, but I deleted my email, changed my profile, and got a new phone number. He hasn’t contacted me since because he simply can’t, thanks to my 100% no contact approach. Our relationship lasted for two years, and I’m still recovering from the shock of what I went through and how much I endured. Thankfully, it’s all in the past now.

The problem is, I’m still terrified that he might eventually publish or show those pictures to someone. I’m not thinking about a new partner; I’m not ready for it, nor do I want it. But I can’t help but imagine how much worse it’ll be if I ever find a new boyfriend. The fear of this haunts me. I’ll keep his threatening messages and blackmail attempts as evidence, of course, but I’m genuinely scared. This is confession of a victim of narcissistic abuse.